Being that Mother's Day is today I thought it made sense to spend the week leading up to this special day celebrating mothers and motherhood. Here is a round up of all of the links and information that was shared across the Abergavenny Kids social media profiles. Enjoy!
So why do we seem pre-programmed to forget all of the amazing things we do and to focus on the slight blips instead?
The next time that inner monologue creeps in with the words “I’m such a crap mum”. Remember you are not.
Remember these words instead and say them out loud.
“You are flipping awesome
and your kids are lucky to have you.”
Vicky Orsmond is a passionate teacher, Christian pastor's wife and a keen globetrotter with their two gorgeous little ones. She is also a local Abergavenny mama who suffered from postnatal anxiety and here she shares her story as a reminder that if you are suffering from postnatal anxiety or depression you are not alone. Support resources are included at the bottom of the page for anyone who may need them.
Thank you for holding our metaphorical seats open for us in the office, so that when those of us who stayed away longer do go back you’re there, just ahead of us, making sure the path is clear and we don’t trip over.
Today I want to stop beating myself up about where I feel I should be, and stop worrying about what others think of me. I need to look myself in the mirror and say ‘you are doing an amazing job.’ Most of all I want to take my children in my arms, smell their beautiful heads, cuddle up under a blanket and read their favourite stories and enjoy being just mum, because, it really is my most favourite thing to be.
Photographer catches that moment you realize it’s not just the two of you anymore (or the three of you… or the four of you…)
I see you. Most days, I am you. Praying they will stay asleep until 6 a.m. Third cup of coffee in hand by 11 a.m. Ready for bed by 7 p.m., but trying to get caught up on all that went undone during the day after they go to sleep. Motherhood is exhausting. Plain and simple. We worry about them day and night, it doesn’t matter if they are 8 days old or eighteen.
Because the truth is, it may get easier, but it will never be better than today. Today, when I am covered in toddler snot and spit-up. Today, when I savor those chubby little arms around my neck. Today is perfect. “One day” I will get pedicures and showers alone. “One day” I will get myself back. But, today I give myself away, and I am tired and dirty and loved SO much, and I gotta go. Somebody needs me.
The important thing is...it’s not too late to stop yelling.
The important thing is...children forgive—especially if they see the person they love trying to change.
The important thing is...life is too short to get upset over spilled cereal and misplaced shoes.
The important thing is...no matter what happened yesterday, today is a new day.
Moaning to your mates and feeling the love back picks up pace when you have kids. Laila K is truly grateful for it
Stop being so hard on yourself, and when this motherhood thing gets tough, which it so often does, here are some things you need to remember:
It turns out I’m never, ever, going to be perfect, but I am always and forever yours, and I’m always and forever on your team. That I can promise you.
Why doesn’t anyone warn SAHM’s that they’ll have days like this? Maybe months like this? We talk about how it’s hard, and exhausting but then we qualify it all as being a labor of love. But why don’t we talk about the dark feelings too?
While I don’t actually think there’s anything at all wrong with getting a mani-pedi or a massage, sustainable self-care is about more than spa indulgences. Sustainable self-care is about setting boundaries on your time. It’s about nurturing healthy relationships. And it’s about holding the balance that we are both strong and fragile at the same time. We can be badass and make sure we’re fed, rested, and nurtured to function optimally. That’s how we scaffold a revolution.
The scene is all too familiar: The kitchen is a minefield of homework, dinner preparations, and the 3-year old’s long forgotten Play-Doh project. One kid is whining about being hungry, another is yelling from the bathroom that she needs her ass wiped, and the 3-year-old is chasing the dog in an effort to “pet” him. The doorbell rings and a harried UPS man demands three separate signatures as all three kids clamor behind you to find out who the stranger is at the door. Just as you close the door, you hear the sounds of dinner boiling over and the smoke alarm loudly declares that you’ve lost control.
To the mum sat on the toilet floor
With the door closed and the light off,
The darkness and quiet is making you feel safe and calm,
You are not alone.
Robyn Wilder is pregnant again. Of course she's overjoyed, but she's also discovered the news comes tinged with lots of other feelings
Interview with my dear friend Sarah Jones who brought Lushtums to Abergavenny last year. I've done a couple of the postnatal sessions so I can speak from experience when I say that her class is awesome and exactly what every mama needs! Read on to find out more about Sarah and the classes she offers.
Motherhood is one of the greatest joys in life, but it also is one of the most challenging experiences one can possibly face. From the sweet moments of laughter and reading together to the difficult moments like tantrums, Mom and Dad are there for all of it… and sometimes, it can be really easy to get worn out.
We kicked off Celebrate Mother's week by giving away this beautiful cupcake bouquet from Emily's Kitchen. If you have any cake or cupcake requirements get in touch with Emily for a delicious creation!